A near and dear friend introduced me to this idea that we justify things in order to make them OK. Like saying “I am lazy” and because I have labeled myself, it is suddenly OK in my mind. I have an excuse, that is just the way it is.
What a lame excuse.
Justification: noun. 1. a reason, fact, circumstance, or explanation that justifies or defends: His insulting you was ample justification for you to leave the party.
So we justify things to make them acceptable, either to ourselves or to others.
My challenge to myself, and to you, is to stop justifying. Stop accepting. Question everything, challenge everything. Just because that is the way it is, it doesn’t have to stay that way.
Stop yourself when you begin to justify your actions, to yourself or another. Why are you justifying something? Does it really need justification? If it needs justification should you be doing it at all?
Be above reproach in all things. Quit making excuses. Be you, whatever form you take, and guess what? If you do not like yourself, then CHANGE. Change ladies and gentlemen. No, it will not be easy, but the journey of a thousand steps begins with one. That wisdom holds true in every situation.
– Atticus G
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Thanks for liking my blog. I’m liking yours too! Together we make poor adventures into adulthood! I agree with you. Someone once told me, “Don’t explain yourself. You don’t owe anyone an explanation. (There are of course, exceptions..)” Truth be told, bosses, friends, whoever, don’t want to hear “the story of what happened” anyways. They want a quick and truthful one word “sorry” and then a reminder of how awesome you are – through being yourself.
Amy-
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Yes, yes, exactly. In my line of work, I hear a hundred thousand excuses for whatever just happened, ‘so-and-so did this, that, and the third so I did ___’. My response is always, “So that somehow makes what you did OK?” Negative. Just do whatever you feel, and damn it own up to a decision regardless of what it is. If it’s wrong, then you move on and learn. You can recover from a wrong decision, but you can’t recover from no decision.
Yay poor people! ;]